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July 6, 2007, 12:24 pm
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“Are We There Yet?”

“Can I have another one pleeease?”

        When kids ask questions like these, parents can usually answer off-handedly.  But there’s another, more important set of questions kids ask that don’t have such straightforward answers.  And the answers to these questions will affect how kids spend the rest of their lives.  Parents may not always hear the questions audibly, but they’re asked by every child, no matter when or where they grow up: Who am I? What’s true? Who really cares? Who believes in me? Where do I fit in? Why am I here?

        Well-adjusted kids are asking these questions, just as struggling kids are.  The answers will determine major life choices, habits, and beliefs.  Unfortunately, our culture has furnished some easy answers.

·        Who am I? It’s all about you.  Be whoever you want to be.

·        What’s true?  Whatever.  Remember, it’s about you.

·        Who really cares?  Nobody, really.

·        Who believes in me?  Whoever can use you.

·        Where do I fit in?  With people you can get to like you.

·        Why am I here?  To get what you want.

        If kids are asking, the world is more than happy to answer.  No parent wants our children to settle for the world’s answers, but many kids are doing exactly that.

        What if you took time to answer those six questions in a way that’ll help children not only find fulfillment but also grow into the kind of leaders who could change the world? And what if the questions weren’t answered informationally, but relationally? 

How will you help your child answer these questions?

Written by Reggie Joiner in Children’s Ministry Magazine

Posted by Kathryn Egly


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That’s a great post Kathryn. Especially showing those answers. I don’t think about the alternatives to what I’d like the answers to be. We went through a parenting program that specifically teaches the importance of creating a family identity to instill purpose, accountability, trust, security, a standard to carry with them when we’re out of view, work ethic, teamwork. We catch glimpses of success and hope to persevere through toddlerhood with kids that understand “in our family, we ________(fill in the blank)”.

We haven’t gotten JD to quite understand the phrase “in our family, brothers don’t chase sisters around with rubber sharks trying to eat them.” He’ll come around(when he’s 40).

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